Monday, June 12, 2017

Dealing With Loss

I lost a friend this weekend.  Patty lost her battle with Lupus and died from complications from liver transplant surgery.  I am saddened by her loss and know how hard this must be for her family.
Patty and I met in our last year of college and though I was 20 years older, mature student, and she was a born again Christian while I was a bit  of a heathen, something clicked and we became friends.
When we left Georgia to move to California Patty was supposed to drive our extra car out for us, but instead she met the love of her life, Steve, and they became engaged and then married.
Through the years we stayed in touch, then lost each other and then when we moved back to Georgia she found me again through Facebook and came to visit.
Her husband was a minister and they lived in South Carolina.  Seeing her was great, it was like there had been no missing years between us and through blogging and Facebook we stayed in touch.
Patty's kids were older, the youngest in his last years of high school when they decided to adopt an older child.  It was a lengthy process and part of it involved having a physical. The results of some of her blood work were puzzling and after many more tests it was discovered that she had Lupus, an autoimmune disorder that can attack the body in a variety of ways.
Patty fought it for years, never giving in, but eventually she needed a liver transplant and was put on the list to get one.  Earlier this year her son made the decision that he wanted to be the donor and after much soul searching Patty and Steve agreed and the surgery was performed 3 weeks ago.  There were problems right from the beginning, but it looked like she was winning the battle, her strength and spirit were so strong.  But as her husband wrote on Saturday, prayers are always answered, but not always they way we want them to be.  She died Saturday afternoon with her family at her side.  She will be missed by all who knew and loved her.

26 comments:

  1. I am so sorry for the loss of your special friend. Healing thoughts to her family and to you.

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  2. Such a sad post today. Sorry for the loss of such a close friend.
    Tugs at your soul and breaks your heart.

    cheers parsnip and thehamish

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  3. I am sorry for your loss, sending you hugs. xx

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  4. So sorry to read this. It's more than sad losing someone who has been a friend for so long. Prayers for you and all who knew and loved your friend, prayers for comfort and strength.

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  5. I am so sorry, for you, for her, for the family.

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  6. My sincere condolences, sending you a hug.

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  7. So sorry to hear your news today, it's hard to lose such a dear friend:)

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  8. I feel for you - it is very sad when you loose a good friend whom you have known for so many years.

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  9. It's wonderful that you can cherish your years together through your memories. Her husband sounds like a wise man.

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  10. I'm saddened to read of your loss of a very dear friend. May her memory be eternal. Sending you hugs, Pat

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  11. I am so sorry Janet. Sounds like she was a very special friend.

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  12. I am so sorry to hear that you have lost such a dear and courageous friend.

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  13. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend, Janet. Treasure the memories of the times you had together.

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  14. A lovely tribute to your friend. So sorry to read of your loss. Jx

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  15. I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your close friend and I'm thinking of you and your friend's family at this time.

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  16. So sad to lose a good friend. She would have been proud of your wonderful tribute.

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  17. I'm so sorry to hear this, praying for strength and comfort for you and for Patty's family.

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  18. I am so, so sorry for the loss of your friend. I am sending you a big hug.

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  19. Oh, how sad - I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending hugs.

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  20. I am so sorry about the loss of your dear friend.
    What a beautiful tribute you have given her on this post.
    I hope her family and other friends will read it. Praying for you and all of them in this loss.

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  21. I am so sorry that you have lost your friend .....

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  22. What a fighter she was. Wishing you and the family, strength for today and always. Best wishes.

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  23. I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend.
    My condolences

    All the best Jan

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  24. I am so sorry. My condolences to you and her family.

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